Punishment & Canned

M had been a real 'pain in the neck' recently. Last night, he was been canned and punished to sleep alone in the Study Room.

Yesterday morning, M was given chinese homework by HB so that when we return home in the evening, HB can do the revision on 'Ting Xie' with him. HB called in the morning to remind him about the homework and M told HB that he is doing his homework at that time. After dinner, we watched a little TV programme and at about 8.30pm, HB wanted M to start revision. HB told M to bring out whatever he had done in the morning, but was told by M that nothing had been done. It means that M didn't do his Chinese Homework in the morning, and he lied to HB that he was actually doing. And guess what M did in the morning???? He played his DS Lite games. M was warned before that he should not be playing his DS Lite portable. HB deliberately left it on the table and wanted M to learn that although the portable game is there he shouldn't play as he was told to. Last week, M was been punished for playing his DS Lite secretly while we are at work, so over last weekend, he is not allowed to play PS3.

But looks like M has not learn his lesson, he continue to play his DS Lite while both HB and myself are at work. And the worst thing is, M didn't do his homework given by HB and lied to him that he was doing. This make HB 'blow to his top'. First, HB throw M out of the house, but after a while, HB realised that throwing him out of the house, still won't get M's homework done. HB tried to explain to M that what he did is terribly wrong. Firstly for lying, secondly for not doing his homework given although HB had reminded him again and again. HB felt that M didn't take his word seriously at all. HB started canning M, but the caned broke into 2 pieces and HB went to the toilet to get his belt and continue canning M. Upon seeing that, this really hurt me, but what can I do???? I think M need to be taught a lesson and these days, he has been rude and bad behaviour.

After canning M, HB told M to finish up the homework and learn 'Ting Xie'. HB softly told me to check whether M is hurt with his canning. HB at that time lost control of himself and I can feel the pain when he canned M. Luckily, there isn't and injury on M, just a few canned marks. I must said M's skin is really thick.... with the way HB canned, he wasn't injured at all.. thanks GOD.

M.... when are you going to listen to us? When are you going to change? When are you going to behave yourself? When are you going to focus in your studies? When are you going to be a good boy? Mummy has so many questions for you... When? When? When? It hurts me to see you being canned by daddy, but what to do!!!! You just couldn't follow instructions... Do you know how much daddy and mummy loves you? I really hope you would your lesson after last night.. I LOVE you, M.

How To Be A Good Mother?

Being a mother is difficult, not to mention to be a good mother. Sometime I really don't understand my son. I don't understand his needs and his thinking. To be a good mother, is it to accommodate the needs of our children is enough? Children these days are very demanding. What's their need? What are they thinking?

Recently, I had a hard time with my son. I am not sure whats went wrong. He refused to listen to me, to follow instructions given, to STUDY, to do his homework, etc.... How much does a 7 years old kid understand what is studying? I have tried explaining to him the importance of studying, the knowledge he will gain so that he will be a better person in the future. But he simply couldn't understand. He had been very rude to me recently, scolding me 'stupid mother', answering back at me, shouting at me!!!! I have being trying to tolerate his bad behaviour. But last week, it was 'up to my neck' and he's 'getting on my nerves'. I tried to get him to prepare for his coming examination, but he just couldn't listen and understand and even lied to me. I started screaming at him and broke down. At that moment, I just lost control of myself. I started crying silently. It was really painful for me. For I have always thought that I have been very patient with him and I have tried very hard not to scream at him and be accommodating with him. But that night, whatever I have done before just went into the 'drain'. Conculsion, I am simply not a good mother....