How To Be A Good Mother?

Being a mother is difficult, not to mention to be a good mother. Sometime I really don't understand my son. I don't understand his needs and his thinking. To be a good mother, is it to accommodate the needs of our children is enough? Children these days are very demanding. What's their need? What are they thinking?

Recently, I had a hard time with my son. I am not sure whats went wrong. He refused to listen to me, to follow instructions given, to STUDY, to do his homework, etc.... How much does a 7 years old kid understand what is studying? I have tried explaining to him the importance of studying, the knowledge he will gain so that he will be a better person in the future. But he simply couldn't understand. He had been very rude to me recently, scolding me 'stupid mother', answering back at me, shouting at me!!!! I have being trying to tolerate his bad behaviour. But last week, it was 'up to my neck' and he's 'getting on my nerves'. I tried to get him to prepare for his coming examination, but he just couldn't listen and understand and even lied to me. I started screaming at him and broke down. At that moment, I just lost control of myself. I started crying silently. It was really painful for me. For I have always thought that I have been very patient with him and I have tried very hard not to scream at him and be accommodating with him. But that night, whatever I have done before just went into the 'drain'. Conculsion, I am simply not a good mother....